three fundamental techniques for handling people

technique 1: don't criticize, condemn or complain
"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."
once someone feels like they are being criticized they will stop looking for advice from you. making someone feel welcomed with you will make them want to talk to you. the keyword is embrace. make someone feel embraced even with all their flaws and extra baggage. in the quote we could see that together we could help each other fly.

We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another.

Luciano De Crescenzo

technique 2: give honest and sincere appreciation
"The big secret in dealing with people"

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."-Bryant H. McGill
giving people honest opinions make them want to respect you. they respect honesty and want acceptance from you. like in the quote, people want to be heard and be given back honesty. being untruthful to someone is disrespectful because you're letting them look dumb in front of others. like letting your best friend wear an outfit that is ridiculous instead of telling her the truth. when she finally realizes how dumb she looked she will blame you for letting her look like that and not being truthful.








technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want
"He who can do this has the whole world to him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."
"The more you adapt, the more interesting you are." -Martha Stewart
when youre an interesting person people want to talk to you. they want to hear what you have to say and what you have done. being interesting and keeping people eager is essential because they are going to want to keep talking to you. they are going to find you more complex and want to maintain a friendship with you. when youre getting a job and your interviewer is fascinated with what you have to say and offer, you will get the job. you want someone to look at you like sponge bob. ready for the day.  

reflection:
i believe that these techniques will work with difficult people. i think that not only difficult people but also with new people that you meet. how to get new coworkers to like you or at least get along with them. applying these techniques can help your social life. these will really work. applying this will work any environment.

school break
During my Christmas break i didn't do much. i woke up early everyday to go to practice. i went out with my cousins to the movies. we saw a 007 movie. it was pretty boring and i fell asleep. i also went to LA live with my boyfriend. we went on the metro. it was fun because it was my first time going there. i also had a job interview at chipotle. it went okay but another girl did even better and she got the job. for Christmas i was at my godmothers house and i was hanging out with my god sisters and her cousins. we had fun talking about girl things. we ate tamales, birria, ponche, and other Hispanic deliquesces. we had alot of fun together catching up on the things we have missed in each others lives.
 

class/self evaluation

I like this class because were learning about computers and programming etc. i dont like this class because theirs ideas being forced down on us. some things to improve this class can be letting us have our own ideas;meaning not forcing what you believe on us. something else that can improve is the speed of the class. i believe i have done my best in this class, i complete all assignments. lastly, no i am not committed to being a ctr person, because i accept who i am and have no will to change it.

six ways to make people like you. if you want people to like you...
rule 1: become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming more interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

"You can make more friends in a month by being interested in them than in ten years by trying to get them interested in you."
being interested in people's activities will make you like able because you're showing you actually care. when someone sees you care about them it makes them want to care about you to and then you have a new friend. i will apply this rule to me by practicing it in my daily life. i will ask people about their day and what is going on in their life not just mine. i will ask about what sport theyre in and what theyre doing over the weekend. also about how is school for them. and concern myself over theure problems. like a good friend.
rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, 'I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.'"
"You dont feel like smiling?Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."


“Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles.” » George Eliot
A smile is welcoming. when you walk down the hall and everyone sees you smile you seem approachable and friendly. they are gonna want to talk to you since they arent afraid of you. Wearing a frown you seem angry and scary. everyone will look at you like "whats wrong with them?" since you look so angry. the quote says it clearly wearing a frown only make wrinkles. to apply this to my life i will remember about good things in my life when im by myself and not doing anything.
rule 3: remember names
"A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language"
"If you dont remember names you are headed for trouble."

Words have meaning and names have power. — Author Unknown
remembering a person's name is something everyone should do when they meet someone knew. It shows that they are forgettable and made an impression on you. you should also remember their name so you could be able to call them or talk to someone else about them. to apply this to myself i will practice saying a person's name several times and make sure to connect their face to their name.
how to:
meet and repeat
associate 
spell it out
choose to care
rule 4: be a good listener. Encourage other to talk about themselves
"if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times nore interested in himself and his wants and his problems then he is in you and your problem"

Being a good listener is a great quality you could have because your hearing things and learning from them. You get to know someone and learn something new because your listening to it attentively.

5 tips for active listening

1. stay focused: natural eye contact, don't judge, stay focused 

2. really listener: don't think about your similar experiences

3. allow for periods of silence: make sure theyre done talking before you speak

4. from time to time repeat what they said understand the emotions behind the words

5.  paraphrase what they say to let them know you were listening 

rule 5: talk in items of the other person's interest

"the royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.

Bryant H. McGill

i believe this is important to communicate with others because you want the other person to feel important. but i believe you cant force interest in others, if you dont care about what they have to say why are you even speaking to them. you need to make sure youre showing interest because you actually do care. dont waste youre time trying to be someone youre not. although, you do need to be respectful to people that want to talk to you.

rule 6:Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

"the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."

"helping people feel important and appreciated works magic"

“Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.” 
― Susan Sontag

paying attention to someone can show that you really care for them and what they are saying. when you're paying attention and stays connected with the person. you're genuinely interested in the person. that makes everyone happy. people are needy even the most independent person wants to be listened and cared for. it is something that is just natural. we all seek attention.
reflection:
i feel like these 6 ways can really improve my communication skills. its also a good way to advance in the professional world such as a work environment. when i want to establish a connection with a client or coworker i can use these skills to help me. i will commit to using these skills more often so it becomes a natural habit/ second nature. making everyone feel important and genuinely caring for them is very important in a friendship.

Glenn Cunningham


Glenn was 8 years old when someone burned his school down. the fire took his brother with it. Glenn was severely burned. he was missing alot of flesh on his legs but he refused to amputate. he was receiving a new type of therapy so he could walk again. two years later, Glenn was running. he was honored best amateur athlete in America in 1933. unfortunately Glenn died without achieving his life goal of a mile in 4 minutes. he left behind 10 kids and a park named after him. i can relate to him because i try my hardest to achieve good grades. i have to go above and beyond even when people dont believe in me.

“We are our choices.”
― Jean-Paul Sartre

our choices reflect who we are. we have to choose the right

"the six attitudes of high achievers" john noe
1. make no small plans
"Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die, but long after we are gone be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."
Daniel Burnham

plan ahead of time and set goals. making plans that are long term to keep you in the right path. the picture says chapter one because the book has more than one chapter and in life there is more than one moment. it continues on and on. so your goals should never end. people never thought a man would be in the moon but now were trying to land on mars. to apply this new attitude to me i will read my life planning boook everyday for 5 minutes and add to it.
2. do what they fear
"The key to change... is to let go of fear."
--Roseanne Cash

conquering your fears is the best way to live life. you cant stop yourself because you're afraid of something. someone once said "fears stop more people from accomplishment than failure its self". meaning if you fail nothing can happen but get back up and try again. accomplishing your fear also grants you a feeling of success and overwhelming gratefullness for yourself. you will feel so much better after you face it. in order for me to face my own fears i will challenge myself everyday to do something i would never regularly do.
3.Are willing to prepare

  I think the reason people win or achieve there goal is because they prepare and knows what to do and what's coming. A a person really wants to win they know that they have to get knowledge on it and practice on whatever they're trying to win or accomplish. If you don't have knowledge on it how are u win. Its obvious to know if the person will win because they're confident and seem like they won already.

4. Are willing to risk failure

Some people don't like the idea of failing but failing doesn't mean that you're not good enough it means that you made a mistake that can be fixed. Failing is a way people learn and grow as a better person. People should not get mad or sad if they fail because it just life and we should learn from it and move move on. Does not mean that you will fail all the time,sometimes you will strive and achieve your dream.

5. are teachable
“What I believe is that all clear-minded people should remain two things throughout their lifetimes: Curious and teachable.”
― Roger Ebert

what the quote means about curios is that you always have questions to be answered and desire to answer them. when you have desire to learn something you look for resources and search for answers. you're willing to be guided by someone. when you're teachable it means you're open to new ideas. being teachable is a good quality because you're open to not always being right and can take criticism in a right way. you move up and improve.
6. have a heart

"Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts."

a person has a heart meaning they are kind. this quote means that she hopes to be happy and that her happiness can scatter more happiness. she call smiles rich because they are the most valuable things in life. everyone should be kind and give back when they are in a higher level. they should always remember their beginnings. people that have a heart are very kind and remember about others. they help those that need help even when they dont ask for it. this is an important quality to have. i want to have this quality so therefor i want to become less vain.
overall reflection
the 6 attitudes of a high achiever shouldnt just be for "high achievers" all students should have this attitude about learning and life in general. there is never an end to education you will always be learning subconciously or conciously, whether it be a new job or raising a kid. we should always be open minded, teachable, kind, and out going.